I’ll make friends with them so that I can understand them slowly and deal with them without problems. If there are things they do not like about me, especially if they are work related, I will ask them with a calm tone. I think that problems or any issues can be solved if there is open communication and honesty.
— Connie Garabiles Agader
For me, everyone has a different personality. I have experienced dealing with challenging people with my own family and also with my community. What I do is to stay calm and listen to myself and take my responsibility and lift these people up to God and think positively and look forward as it says in Hebrews 11:1, “Now faith is the assurance of what we hope for and the reassurance of what we do not see.”
— Rosemarie Asgar Leysa
The best way to deal with a difficult person who is unwilling to change their attitude or behaviour towards others is to remain calm and try to understand the underlying reasons for their behaviour. Try to be patient and show empathy and understanding. Avoid getting into a power struggle and instead focus on finding a mutually beneficial solution.
— Ghie Matias
As we walk together in faith, there will inevitably be times when we disagree or struggle with others. In these moments, let us remember that we are called to reflect Christ’s love, patience and grace just as Jesus reached out to those who were difficult to love, we too are called to extend compassion and understanding. Let us always remember the words of Scripture: “Let everything you do be done in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14). With humility, hope, patience and prayer, may we face every challenge with grace and the desire for peace.
— Helen Luces Pablo
As for me, we must clearly express our thoughts and feelings. Avoid being confrontational or judgmental. Also avoid using harsh words. Remember that a harsh answer stirs up strife (Proverbs 15:1). Listen well to understand and don’t react too quickly to what they say.
As we celebrate the 500 years of Christianity in the Philippines. The Chaplaincy to Filipino Migrants organises an on-line talk every Tuesday at 9.00pm. You can join us at:
https://www.Facebook.com/CFM-Gifted-to-give-101039001847033
Dealing with difficult people becomes an exercise in patience, love and grace. Our response to difficult people should be modelled on the example of Jesus, who certainly dealt with many difficult people during his time here on earth. In his dealings with difficult people, Jesus never displayed an attitude of harsh superiority or dismissive pride; rather, he showed authority under control.
— Novy Paglinawan
