When something goes wrong in my work, and my employers blame me for it, I will honestly explain to them the situation. We must humbly accept our own mistakes, if we really did something wrong. But if not, and they do not understand or choose not to listen, I just keep quiet and pray to God. I pray that they might be enlightened by the truth. Nothing can be hidden to God. — Rymalyn Cabrera
Even when we are careful enough at work, accidents do happen. With my experience, I will talk to my employer and explain to them honestly what happened in a nice and humble way. I will say sorry if I made a mistake. If they will not accept my apology, I just pray that they can be more understanding.
— Rose Curammeng
If I already speak about my reasons for that certain situation and my employer still does not believe me, as long as it is not a serious matter and I am not guilty, I will just pray for it and be silent. Sometimes we need to understand what our employers are going through. They have their own difficulties and problems too. Everyone has some shortcomings. Just pray for them instead and God knows what to do.
— Melchie Guihama
I will cool down myself, first, and I will explain to my employer all my sides through messages in an attempt to make her understand. If she still does not listen, I will pray to our Lord to touch her heart and give her a wider mindset, so that she may understand me. I’m hoping that forgiveness is still in her heart and give me a second chance.
— Marisa Lumpas
I will take a deep breath. Then, pray for God’s proper guidance on how to handle the situation. For the meantime, I will remain silent to cool down the situation and hopefully change the mood of my employer. Just like what Emily Phoenix said, “You can’t fight a fire with fire, and you have to fight fire with water”. Furthermore, I will try to find the right timing to tell my side of the story. Finally, I will put my trust into the Lord to enlighten their mind because I know that everything happens for a reason.
— Doriz Mista Masilang
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If I am wrongly accused of something I did not do, first I will remain quiet and listen to what they are saying and keep in silent prayer. I will seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit for a way I can settle matters amicably. I will make also a sincere apology even if I am not at fault and wait for the right timing when my employer calms down and slowly explain my side so that he can realise that everything he accused me of is not true. This way my employer will feel my respect for him and then we can have a good relationship. I think we must learn to give them face. Heated arguments will worsen the situation.
— Helen L. Pablo
If I am wrongfully blamed by my employer and they do not listen to my explanation, I must first assess the severity of the errors that they are blaming on me. If it’s a minor one, then the best thing to do is to let it go. But if it is work-damaging, then I need to speak out and be heard. There are times when events occur that are not primarily my fault because they are unintentional or circumstantial and thus beyond my control. I need to explain in a calm and low voice, remembering that being defensive might heat up the arguments. If the employer still insists on a continuous debate, then there is no point in explaining further. The remedy is “sorry.” That doesn’t mean I’m admitting my mistakes, though. For me, saying “sorry” sometimes means saving the relationship. I value my work and care about the person I serve, and this is more important than my pride and ego.
— Sonita Piojo
Dealing with employers could be a real challenge. It really hurts if we are blamed but we know it isn’t our fault. In that situation, I just lift up everything to God in a silent prayer, believing that he knows the truth. Our Christian life should start and end with faith, which provides stability for our soul. No matter what happens, make it our goal to be faithful in our work. The Bible says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.” (Colossians 3:23)
— Adela Laqui Torres
As a human being, it is normal for us to react if we are accused of something we didn’t do. As an overseas worker for 23 years I have also experienced being wrongly blamed. For me, I usually practice humility and the virtue of patience and self control and ask God’s guidance in resolving any conflict or issue whether at work or with my family. If they don’t listen to my explanation no matter how I try, that’s the time I will cry out to God, ask for
his help and let the Holy Spirit move in the lives of those people.
— Rosalie Padernilla Tupal
