Winning an argument at home is not important. We tend to try our best to defend ourselves when an argument arises especially when we are in the right side, and we may even raise high our voices. But for me these are not necessary. As a Christian I was taught to be humble and strive to be at peace with everyone. 2 Timothy 2:14 says, “Remind people of these things and charge them before God to stop disputing about words. This serves no useful purpose since it harms those who listen.” On my part I will just tell my opinions but not to insist it. I will leave it that way when the person doesn’t understand yet. Maintaining harmony in the home and good relationship is what matters most for me.
— Josie Banig
Whether we win an argument or not is not really a big deal if love is present at the centre of ones family. Also, as a parent, our role is to guide our children and let them know that we do not need to win an argument. Let them understand that having an argument at home is just normal because we are imperfect but in the end, however, there should always be a consensus among each of the members of the family so that understanding will always prevail. We need to let our children understand the importance of God being at the centre of our family. Because of his love, all of us were saved. It is important that in everything that we do and everything that we have in our family, we should always include him in between. We love our family because we love God.
— Conchita Juan
All are winners in a discussion at home when everybody is given a chance to express their ideas on different issues. Argument should be avoided when an open discussion is encouraged among family members. Oftentimes pride makes one think he is always correct and insists on what he wants. Usually this kind of person is an unhappy one. When this happens we should try to widen our understanding, to explain things in a friendly manner, with kindness and love in order to correct and build one another up. We should always talk things out and avoid conflict and misunderstanding which create grudges and broken friendship.
We may listen and learn from our more mature siblings and from our parents who we consider our leaders in the family. Their good examples in words and deeds guide us in achieving peace and a harmonious relationship within the family.
— Edna Gandeza
For most of us, arguing is extremely unpleasant, but we hope that most of our interactions will be satisfying and free of conflicts. Some interactions devolve and turn into argument, but we should work our way through the argument in the most gracious way possible. Give yourself a little bit of space and brief moment of time to calm down your initial emotional reaction. Learn to agree and disagree and still respect each other’s opinions, instead of yelling and arguing back.
My husband and I solve any disagreement imperturbably. This way we can maintain dignity and hopefully our relationship, because at the end of the day our spouse is our partner. So we either win together or lose together. So don’t argue with them, just love them.
— Cherry Guerrero
Having argument inside the house is a true version of being a family. Making an argument between your parents or between your siblings or any other people who are living with you is a common picture inside the house. It always happen but at some point it should be avoided. Some scenarios of making an argument creates barriers and gap which make it hard for us to treat our family with respect, care and love. It can be difficult and stressful to be surrounded by people who are having bad feelings between them. This can make home a difficult place to live in. It might help to try talking, ask them to find a way that they can stop arguing because at the end of the day family is your safe haven on every problems and misunderstandings, and love and understanding should always prevail at the end.
— Minerva Climacosa
It is not really necessary to win in an argument. But sometimes it is also good to have arguments where we share each other’s ideas and hear each other’s opinion. We can talk in a peaceful manner without raising our voice. We should set aside our pride and be humble to accept each other’s opinion. Good communication is one way of avoiding arguments. We can create a process in resolving problems. We should try to understand each other’s point of view, give suggestions instead of making commands. Show everybody that peace, love and unity in the family can be achieved without arguing. Humility is a great virtue in winning the hearts of all members within the family.
— Marife Leonardo
