Self-esteem is so significant that every individual should have and should be developed early on in life. To help children have a sense of self-esteem, we first need to know them fully. Let’s take time to know what they like, as well as their dislikes and interests. We also need to understand their thoughts. Let them be themselves. Praise them and give advice when they need it. Be in their world by doing things together and let them enjoy what they are doing. When they feel like they fail, talk to them and tell them it is ok as they can try again. Give examples or facts about people’s lives, to help them widen their imagination and to give them hope. No matter what, do not lose your temper with them, be patient, let them feel your love always. Let them have confidence to face, do and try new things and tell them not to give up.
— Lou Anne Anosa
W e parents know that we need to praise our children in order to develop their self esteem. But I think our praises can sometimes do harm to our children. If we just keep praising our children they would think what they have done is just the best they can do, so by the time they encounter difficulties outside, they may find it hard to cope with challenges. I think we should first let our children have their own choices and respect it, let them discover things on their own, and solve problem or any difficulties with proper guidance. As parents we have to set a good example because children imitate what they see in us. If they made mistakes do not be anxious, let them know that mistake is okay as long as they can learn from it. Let them know how much we love them and as much as possible set a special time to be with them. Join them in their activities if needed.
— Lovelyn Bioy
Self-esteem is having confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. I am a mother of two children. While at home, I would help my children learn to do many new things, show and teach them how things to be done until they can do them independently. We parents should do our best to deal with the needs of our children, and give them recognition for every achievement of their performances. Show them that we are proud and believe in their ability for further improvement. We have to be smart while giving rules and constructive criticism. Do not forget to put more emphasis on their strength. Lastly, as a parent be good role models to children. The way you talk to your children is the greatest single factor in shaping their personalities.
— Carmen Corpuz
My son once told me that our situation isn’t right as a mother must be on the side of her child, not working very far. It broke my heart as he told me that I was the only one he needed most. But working abroad is the only way I know to give him a better life. To enhance his self esteem I do my best to guide him even though I’m far away. I need to make him stronger to face whatever trials come into our lives. I will award him for his achievements to motivate him in pursuing his goals. I made sure I have spent enough time to communicate with him and let him feel my love and concern on his welfare. Open communucation is very important. Surprisingly, when he stepped into senior high school he became an honour student. He said to me, “Mama thank you for being there for me.” No matter whether he won or lost, I was still proud of him and believed in his capacity. He also said I am his best friend that always reminds him to have faith in God.
—Ellen Mortel
Both encouragment and guidance are important. Parents should set an example for their children. They should develop discipline and most of all appreciate the accomplishment of their children. They should also share more positive views in daily lives, and try their best to develop moral values of the family. It is important to let children be exposed to different situations in life. It is also good to equip them with skills they like to learn by making them eager to read their books, play one musical instruments or enjoy the beauty of sports. Above all, talk to them about God to develop their spiritual life.
— Corazon Sanchez
One way of helping children gain self-esteem is through motivation. Reminding them always to love God and above all things obey his commandments, so that they will always speak with integrity and show compassion towards others in need. Encourage them to aim high always and hit the mark with God by their side. If they make a mistake explain where the mistake is and tell them not to fear failures. Congratulate them for good performances or good grades in school. Above all, remind them to have faith in God.
—Tess Ubamos
