Personally, I sometimes find it hard to say no to family and friends’ requests. However, over the years, I have learned to say no when I cannot give in to their requests. The key is to be honest and give your reason in a manner that is simple, concise and straight to the point. We just have to accept the fact that we cannot please everyone and we have to stand firm on our decision when we say no.
— Raul Benjamin Puentespina
I find it heavy in my heart if I have to turn down a favour asked from me. However there are really times when it is inevitable. It depends also on what situation I am in. For example a friend was in dire need of money and asked me to lend her some. It so happened that I was broke too. I explained my situation and had to say no to her. It is really hard to turn others down but we need to think first of our own needs and that of our families. I must confess that there was a time I took pity on a friend and extended my generosity. But at the end I learned a painful lesson from this. Sometimes hurting though it may be, we really have to say no. That way we can also teach our friends to be mature and not to depend too much on others because we have our own burdens on our shoulders.
— Rosesmarie Dela Cruz
If for instance I am requested to help through my service, I would inform the other party to let me know in advance so I can adjust my schedule. If I can’t be available I will say sorry and maybe in future I can help. I don’t mind what their feedbacks are when I turn down a favour. If I turn down a request, it is with a valid reason.
— Rubilyn Ignacio
Friends sometimes message me and ask if I can be their guarantor in a loan. I think it is not good to say yes because it can put me in trouble if they will not do their part of paying. I would tactfully turn down their request by telling them of my obligation and plans, though I could sense that they are not happy about it. But that is not my problem. If they send me angry words I prefer to block their messages to avoid misunderstanding and I want peace of mind. I always remind myself that when the time comes and I am faced with problems, I cannot rely on others for help specially financial ones.
— Maria Johnna Lomeda
I cannot say no to the people I love, like my family. For my friends, I will do what I can. But sometimes the request is too heavy. Turning down a request from a persistent friend can be difficult. I will try my best to be tactful and explain the reason why I cannot be of help. We all understand our priorities as we work aboard to give a better life for our family.
— Mary Chris Pilpinosas
I am frequently asked of financial favours. If I cannot help, I will tactfully turn down the request and be careful with the words I say so that the other party would feel less embarrassed or hurt. I will tell them maybe next time if I have extra money I may be able to help. This way they will feel lighter. I will honestly tell them that most of the time I need to send almost a whole part of my salary back home and I just leave a small amount for my personal needs. It is also sad that I know some people back in the Philippines who have the impression that since I am earning Hong Kong dollars, I am better off. They do not realise that our money is earned by blood and sweat
— Joanne Salvador
