I didn’t know how to tackle the gap between my sons and me before leaving them to my mother’s care to work abroad. It is true that I left them for many years and missed many important moments of their lives. I was not around when they needed a mother’s affection and presence the most.
The experience that saddened me most was when my youngest son once considered me as his sister. When I went home for vacation, he didn’t even want to sleep with me, and he called me by my first name! Hurting, isn’t it? I know it would take some time and patience to bring back my sons’ affections toward me. As a mother, no matter what, my love for my children is unconditional, hoping that later they will understand and appreciate my sacrifices for them.
As my remedy for restoring my sons’ feelings to me as their mother, especially my youngest, I give them most of the things they need and try my best to let my love penetrate their hearts. I spend more time communicating with them, even through virtual chats. I would like them to understand and feel that I had to work overseas to give them a brighter future.
As they grew up, they began to understand the situation. I’m grateful that today the mother-son relationship is getting stronger. I am grateful to my mother for taking care of them and helping me open their hearts, especially my youngest son, to understand why I had to leave them. Most of all, I am grateful to our Lord for answering the cries of a mother’s heart.
Maitamay Dano
